Sept. 13, 2022

Your caveman desires are standing in the way of TRUE happiness

Many who identify with symptoms of borderline personality disorder find themselves wanting to “get better.” This often leads to therapy (which is great), which leads to learning skills in therapeutic modalities like CBT or DBT (also great.) However, what is also common is that these very same people find that the “skills” aren’t enough.


Maybe you’ve done all your research. You’ve been to therapy. You’ve learned the skills. But you’re still unhappy and stuck in a perpetual loop of chronic boredom and emptiness. The missing piece you’ve been looking for is taking the time to “get under the hood” of your BPD symptoms and digging into the “why” of your suffering.

We’ve all been sold a lie about what happiness is. In this episode, we’ll untangle this complicated concept so that you can begin to see that you may have been looking at happiness all wrong your entire life. We can enter the process of true and lasting recovery only when we see clearly. In this episode, we’re diving deep into the core reason for our suffering: our biological need for the next dopamine fix—the never-ending chase of the next “desirable” people, person, or thing.

​​💡 Questions answered and topics discussed in this episode:


■ What is “Dukkha bias,” and how does it contributes to feeling like nothing is ever good enough

■ BPD, boredom, and emptiness

■ Why it feels so hard to be happy when living with the symptoms of borderline personality disorder

■ How desire causes suffering and what you can do about it

■ Understanding how human biology keeps us stuck in a cycle of never-ending needs and desires

■ How to understand what happiness means to YOU


📝Recommended resources: 

■ Book - Designing the Mind: The Principles of Psychitecture by Ryan Bush

■ YouTube - Interview with the author of Designing the Mind on the Modern Wisdom Podcast


Disclaimer: information contained in this podcast episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. 


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