Feb. 7, 2022

When you have no idea how you feel: learning to label your emotions (ft. Dr. Jayce Long)

When you have no idea how you feel: learning to label your emotions (ft. Dr. Jayce Long)

In this episode, I sat down with contemporary psychodynamic psychologist Dr. Jayce Long to explore the importance of becoming more deeply connected to your emotions, the complicated ways you reenact your traumatic childhood experiences in your adult relationships and how you can break the toxic cycle once and for all so the process of healing can truly begin. *Note that his is part two of my interview with Jayce. If you haven’t already, go back and listen to episode 31 to hear this interview in its full context.*

💡 Questions answered and topics discussed in this episode:

■ The long-lasting effects of childhood and adolescent bullying

■ How individuals with avoidant attachment styles and those with preoccupied/disorganized attachment styles often attract one another

■ How to navigate the inevitable conflict in intimate and family relationships

■ Self-awareness vs. self-absorption: are you being selfish, self-centered or simply self-aware? 

■ Learning to accept that the trust and intimacy in relationships take time

■ The importance of setting emotional boundaries and stating our needs

■ The difference between emotional or “affective” feelings and “belief/narrative” feelings for people with symptoms of borderline personality disorder (BPD / EUPD)

■ Learning to identify and express the 6 ‘core’ emotions: anger, sadness, and fear (painful emotions) and curiosity, love, joy (pleasurable emotions)

■ Capturing and tuning into “complicated” emotions by checking in with our bodies 

■ How giving unsolicited advice might be sabotaging your relationships

■ Understanding the perfectionistic nature of our “inner critic” and how it helped us survive when we were young

■ Critiquing Pete Walker’s concept of “raging” at our inner critic and how we may need to evolve past this phase in our recovery journey 

Follow Jayce on Instagram @darebeingwith

Disclaimer: information contained in this podcast episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. 


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