Sept. 6, 2022

Underrated recovery hacks known to help you change the beliefs that are holding you back

So what are these "underrated recovery hacks", you ask? The majority of people I speak to who are struggling with BPD symptoms tell me how badly they want to change. They know their "toxic" patterns. They know the cycles they continue to repeat that continue to sabotage their change at peace and intimacy. They KNOW. But here's the thing: it's really f*cking hard to change your behavior. Let me tell you the biggest lesson I've learned in my journey so far: changing your beliefs = changing your behaviors.

In today's episode, we'll challenge a lot of the deeply held beliefs that might be holding you back.

I’ll discuss why my current social media break might become a permanent decision, how major social networks are transitioning from “social media” to “recommendation media,” and how this can affect our emotional regulation. I’ll also address a recent (somewhat critical) review on the podcast from someone who finds empowerment in the BPD label. This review inspired me to expand upon why I will continue to be outspoken regarding the (potentially) harmful and damaging impact of BPD diagnoses and how our cognitive biases can get in the way of our recovery process.


I finish by discussing a few voicemails and emails from listeners. Topics include improving communication skills, developing a “growth mindset,” stopping obsessing over our partner’s social media activity, and starting fresh in a relationship after BPD symptoms have eroded trust and intimacy.


​​💡 Questions answered in this episode:


■ BPD and social media (does it worsen symptoms?) 

■ Are mental health labels like “borderline personality disorder” helpful or unhelpful?

■ Splitting in BPD, cognitive biases, and attachment to the BPD label

■ Communication issues and BPD traits (how developing a “growth mindset” can be a game-changer in your recovery journey) 

■ The connection between BPD traits and “obsessive” behaviors (i.e., constantly checking a partner’s social media)

■ Tips for romantic relationships involving people with BPD traits and how to “start fresh.”


📝Recommended resources: 


■ Article – “The End of Social Media and the Rise of Recommendation Media” by Michael Mignano

■ Article – The people who want to get rid of the term ‘personality disorder’ by Emily Reynolds for Dazed Digital

■ Book – Designing the Mind: The Principles of Psychitecture by Ryan Bush


Disclaimer: information contained in this podcast episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. 


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