May 16, 2022

Signs you lack personal boundaries (feeling used and drained by other people)

Signs you lack personal boundaries (feeling used and drained by other people)

Having weak (or nonexistent) personal boundaries can lead to us feeling manipulated, exploited, drained and passive-aggressive. In this episode, we'll discuss how you can identify whether or not you have a serious boundary issue and how this may be playing out negatively in your life and relationships, likely leading to feelings of worthlessness & weakness and making it impossible to develop a healthy sense of self-worth and emotional stability.

Note that in the beginning of this episode, I answer a couple of listener questions. If you'd like to submit a question to the podcast, visit my website at If you want to jump straight into the portion about boundaries, skip to around minute 16. ❀️

β€‹β€‹πŸ’‘ Questions answered and topics discussed in this episode:

β–  What exactly are personal boundaries?

β–  Why is it important to set boundaries?

β–  Signs you have poor personal boundaries

β–  How our lives are negatively impacted by a lack of boundaries with friends, family and intimate partners

β–  How unhealthy boundaries are learned in childhood and the connection between weak & diffuse boundaries and codependency

β–  Common myths about setting boundaries

β–  Benefits & changes you'll experience in your life once you start setting healthy boundaries

On the full version of this episode (available for premium subscribers) we'll be doing an even deeper dive on boundaries where you'll learn exactly how to create and set personal boundaries that people can't ignore.

β€‹β€‹πŸ’‘ Questions answered and topics discussed in the *premium* episode:

β–  How to understand that you have the right to have boundaries

β–  Learn to explore your own needs more deeply to uncover exactly what your boundaries should be

β–  How to say "no"

β–  How to identify when people "cross the line" with you & overstep your boundaries (and what to do about it)

β–  How to stop overcommitting yourself

β–  Sample conversation frameworks that will help you set boundaries with friends, intimate partners and family

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