Nov. 15, 2021

Revealing signs you grew up with emotionally immature parents

Revealing signs you grew up with emotionally immature parents

On this episode, you’ll hear my interview with Stephanie Carinia, a trauma and personality specialist and clinical psychologist based in Amsterdam, the Netherlands. Stephanie is trained in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Mentalization-Based Therapy (MBT) and Schema-Focused Therapy (SFT).

💡 Questions answered and topics discussed in this episode:

■ Challenges therapists face when working with clients with borderline personality disorder (BPD) 

■ The link between BPD (EUPD) and anger (how to calm someone with “BPD rage”)

■ Helping someone with borderline personality disorder (the effect of BPD on family members and loved ones)

■ Ways to deal with destructive non-delusional paranoia in BPD (seeing “signs” and “threats” where they don’t exist) 

■ BPD splitting (symptoms, causes and how to cope)

■ How can BPD affect relationships? 

■ Breaking the cycle of generational trauma

■ Empathy, mentalization, and theory of mind in Borderline Personality Disorder

■ The role seeking approval and validation from others plays in BPD symptomology 

■ Understanding abandonment issues and BPD

■ The concept of “the alien self” in mentalization based treatment of BPD 

■ Self-loathing and transforming our Inner Critic into an Inner Nurturing Parent 

■ When parents offer gas-lighting instead of love

■ How to develop your sense of agency 

■ What to know about perfectionistic parenting 

■ Easy ways to validate your child’s emotions 

■ Signs and symptoms of psychological and emotional trauma (or “emotional injuries”) 

Follow Stephanie on IG @psychologiststephanie

Disclaimer: information contained in this podcast episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. 


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