Nov. 8, 2021

Quiet BPD, self-harm, and toxic family dynamics (ft. Jared Gelman)

Quiet BPD, self-harm, and toxic family dynamics (ft. Jared Gelman)

 In this episode, I interview songwriter and BPD recovery warrior Jared Gelman. During our conversation, he opened up about his struggles with identity, self-harm, and addictive and compulsive behaviors and how his experience growing up in a family that often labeled him as “too much” shaped him into the person he is today. This episode will resonate with you if you identify with the “Quiet BPD” subtype.


​​💡 Questions answered and topics discussed in this episode:


■ Is BPD an “attention-seeking” disorder? (Jared’s experience with self-harm and other self-destructive behaviors)

■ Facing the stigma associated with borderline personality disorder

■ Jared’s experience identifying with “quiet BPD” 

■ Black and white (dichotomous) thinking and splitting behaviors 

■ Paranoia as a Symptom of BPD

■ Finding identity in BPD (Jared’s struggles with identity disturbance and finding a stable sense of self) 

■ BPD and ADHD (Jared’s experience being diagnosed with both)

■ “FP” or favorite person relationships

■ Impulsive behaviors in BPD

■ Emotional regulation and relationship issues in BPD (and difficulty with authority figures)

■ How parents that "try their best" can still do damage (emotional invalidation during childhood and BPD)

■ How to deal with BPD splitting episodes

■ Dealing with the intense fear of being rejected, abandoned and alone

■ Helping someone with borderline personality disorder (tips for loved ones of people with BPD)

Connect with Jared on IG @jaredgelman

Disclaimer: information contained in this podcast episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. 


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