Aug. 13, 2021

How it feels to realize that you're the stereotypical "toxic borderline ex-girlfriend"

How it feels to realize that you're the stereotypical "toxic borderline ex-girlfriend"

It’s easy to slap all people who identify with borderline personality disorder with labels like “toxic” and “abusive.” One of the most frequently searched questions in Google is, “can people with BPD love?” In this episode, I sit down with my friend Kim, as we discuss the harmful impact of these stigmatized (and false) blanket statements about people living with borderline personality disorder and how she has been able to maintain a stable and healthy relationship while navigating her BPD (EUPD) recovery journey.

💡 Topics explored and questions answered in this episode:

■ Holding down a job while living with BPD (Can people with BPD work?)

■ How to cope with feelings of body dysmorphia

■ Kim’s experience with obsessive compulsive behaviors like skin picking

■ Healing from childhood emotional neglect (Can emotional abuse cause BPD?)

■ Understanding abandonment issues and fear of abandonment in BPD

■ What BPD recovery looks like for Kim and how she gives herself “permission to be human”

■ Healing from childhood sexual abuse

■ Can use of weed help BPD or make things worse?

■ Kim’s advice on how people with BPD can learn to have healthy relationships

■ The connection between BPD and codependency

■ The importance of identifying and living by your own set of morals and values to develop a sense of self and identity in BPD recovery

Connect with Kim on YouTube and Instagram at @yournewpenpal

Disclaimer: information contained in this podcast episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. 


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