Episodes

Oct. 4, 2022

BPD splitting: little-known cognitive hacks guaranteed to dismantle b…

Splitting (also known as “all-or-nothing” thinking) is a trait and symptom of borderline personality disorder (BPD) that robs you of your peace. It damages relationships. The truth is that splitting is only one of the many di...

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Sept. 27, 2022

Viewing BPD symptoms through the lens of narrative therapy can help y…

The issue with many current BPD treatments is that they are focused squarely on the individual – these therapies (like DBT or CBT) primarily focus on coping skills – which are helpful, no doubt – but these same therapeutic mo...

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Sept. 20, 2022

Did your BPD symptoms develop to help you survive and adapt as a help…

Looking at the psychological suffering of humans through a medical lens has taken center stage for as long as many of us can remember. However, more and more - especially in recent months - the biomedical model has come under...

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Sept. 13, 2022

Your caveman desires are standing in the way of TRUE happiness

Many who identify with symptoms of borderline personality disorder find themselves wanting to “get better.” This often leads to therapy (which is great), which leads to learning skills in therapeutic modalities like CBT or DB...

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Sept. 6, 2022

Underrated recovery hacks known to help you change the beliefs that a…

So what are these "underrated recovery hacks", you ask? The majority of people I speak to who are struggling with BPD symptoms tell me how badly they want to change. They know their "toxic" patterns. They know the cycles they...

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Aug. 30, 2022

Is Jeanette McCurdy REALLY glad her mom died? (The impact of emotiona…

Former Nickelodeon child-star Jeannette MucCurdy’s provocatively titled new book “I’m Glad My Mom Died” became a near-instant New York Times bestseller after its release in August 2022. The Audible version of the book is narr...

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Aug. 23, 2022

Billie Eilish said porn destroyed her brain (has it destroyed yours, …

20-year-old singer-songwriter Billie Eilish opened up about the devastating impact having access to hardcore pornography (as early as age 11) had on the way she came to view herself and her relationship to her own sexuality o...

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Aug. 16, 2022

Listen if you are at rock bottom, heartbroken, and questioning the po…

I received two listener emails this week that ripped my heart open. One was struggling with addiction, and the other was devastated by a recent heartbreak. These voicemails reminded me of why I started my podcast in the first...

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Aug. 9, 2022

Helping someone with BPD traits (the best advice for loved ones and f…

Coping with traits of borderline personality disorder can be exhausting for both the person experiencing them and those who love them. Splitting episodes, black and white thinking, and extreme emotional dysregulation can make...

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Aug. 2, 2022

Abusive friendships, men with BPD, and books I’m reading

In this laidback episode, I answer a few listener voicemails. We discuss tough topics like trauma-bonded friendships, why so many more women are diagnosed with BPD than men, and I share some books I’ve been reading lately tha...

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July 26, 2022

The hidden spiritual gifts buried beneath your BPD traits (ft. Dr. Li…

Do people who identify with symptoms of what is known as borderline personality disorder have a unique ability to connect to the transcendent? Are chronic feelings of emptiness less about being “disordered” and more about bei...

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July 21, 2022

Let's take an online BPD quiz together and discuss the diagnosis proc…

Let's take an online BPD quiz together and discuss the diagnosis process

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July 19, 2022

Reflections on relationships, social media detoxes, and, feeling toxi…

Reflections on relationships, social media detoxes, and, feeling toxic AF

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July 14, 2022

What Causes BPD?

What Causes BPD?

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July 12, 2022

Celebrities with BPD: Exploring the traumatic life of Pete Davidson

Celebrities with BPD: Exploring the traumatic life of Pete Davidson

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July 5, 2022

Painful BPD breakups: finding yourself after losing your favorite per…

Painful BPD breakups: finding yourself after losing your favorite person

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June 28, 2022

Why a fear of abandonment is at the heart of BPD

Why a fear of abandonment is at the heart of BPD

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June 20, 2022

Big BPD emotions - everything you ever wanted to know

Big BPD emotions - everything you ever wanted to know

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June 13, 2022

BPD: What is it, do you have it, and is it curable?

BPD: What is it, do you have it, and is it curable?

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June 6, 2022

Spotting spiritual reg flags and practicing loving-kindness

Spotting spiritual reg flags and practicing loving-kindness

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May 30, 2022

How radically open DBT helps those who suffer in silence (Ft. Larry D…

How radically open DBT helps those who suffer in silence (Ft. Larry Dahmer)

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May 26, 2022

Release your unhealthy attachment to your BPD "favorite person" (FP) …

This guided imagery is called "A Seat At The Table." The setting is a warm countryside cabin, where you will gather with your "inner counsel" to access intuitive guidance and a more regulated nervous system. Come back to it a...

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May 23, 2022

How trauma throws you off balance (understanding your window of toler…

How trauma throws you off balance (understanding your window of tolerance)

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May 16, 2022

Signs you lack personal boundaries (feeling used and drained by other…

Signs you lack personal boundaries (feeling used and drained by other people)

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