Aug. 2, 2022

Abusive friendships, men with BPD, and books I’m reading

In this laidback episode, I answer a few listener voicemails. We discuss tough topics like trauma-bonded friendships, why so many more women are diagnosed with BPD than men, and I share some books I’ve been reading lately that have contributed positively to my recovery journey.

​​💡 Questions answered in this episode:

■ How to recognize if you’re in an abusive or toxic friendship

■ Uncovering trauma bonding and love bombing in friendships

■ What is intermittent reinforcement in relationships?

■ Why borderline personality disorder is more common in women than men (gender differences in BPD)

📝Recommended resources: 

■ (Soft White Underbelly Interview) Borderline Personality Disorder Woman – Shawna


📚 Book recommendations:


■ What Happened To You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce D Perry and Oprah Winfrey

■ The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene

■ Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab

■ Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art by James Nestor

■ Bringing Home the Dharma: Awakening Right Where You Are by Jack Kornfield and Daniel J. Siegel

■ Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience by Brene Brown

■ A Life of Meaning: Exploring Our Deepest Questions and Motivations by James Hollis

■ Finding Your Own North Star: Claiming the Life You Were Meant to Live by Martha Beck

■ Healing Collective Trauma: A Process for Integrating Our Intergenerational and Cultural Wounds by Thomas Hübel

Disclaimer: information contained in this podcast episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. 


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